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Long distance relationships

I’m not a fan of long-term relationships. Usually give it a month or so and it starts to get shaky and awkward. But funnily enough, I have kept this long distance friendship with no sweat for the past 7 years or so and we have crossed multiple time zones and continents, such as:

B in Hong Kong — M in Australia

B in Hong Kong — M in UK

B in Australia — M in Hong Kong

B in Australia — M in UK

Despite all sorts of time differences and having met up for maybe 10 times in the last 7 years, we still manage to communicate every single day. Obviously thanks to the advancement of technology and the digital era, we have managed to exchange over 5000 emails, endless conversations over msn messenger, a million or so likes and comments on Facebook, physical birthday and Christmas cards to maintain our strong 15-year-old friendship. We whinge to each other on bad days, we consult advice on relationship issues, we tell of weird dreams after we wake up, we speak in code that no one else can understand, we know each other’s family, we’ve picked up a call with tears on the other side; and most important we laugh together and carry each other through difficult times. I absolutely can not disclose her identity because she knows ALL, and I mean everything, about me and she would be the first to kill if anyone needed ***TOP SECRET*** information about me.

Last month, as we met up for a drink on the rare and miraculous occasion that we are in the same city and same country, since there had been one time where we were both in Japan but in different cities, I kept trying to prolong our time together. After drinks I suggested we go for supper as well, since it’s so good to have a physical person there to chat with and laugh with. After I got on the taxi on my way home, I had a sense of emptiness and realised ‘Man, I really do miss her a lot!’ I don’t really have anyone one to go shopping with, to pig out on a plate of pancakes after we’ve just had all you can eat dinner, or go to facials and spas with. But somehow our friendship has evolved into how it is today and I wouldn’t trade it for anything else. Until the next time we meet, my dear friend.

***Photography by BGOR’S photography

  1. February 26, 2011 at 12:20 am

    You are fortunate to have such a friendship. Many people go their whole lives without that type of relationship. Maybe one day you can move closer to each other and see each other more often – at least that’s a goal to shoot for, if that’s something you both want.

  2. February 26, 2011 at 12:39 am

    Thanks grandpa, yeah I treasure our friendship a lot as it’s more precious than diamonds! Congrats, you are my 1000th visitor to my blog! Will check out your blog as well…take care.

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