Archive for the ‘Relationships’ Category

The boyfriend that my friends like

December 9, 2013 Leave a comment

Some people spend their whole lives trying to please others and seek their approval – our boss, our family and friends. That is exactly what I have been doing. The reason that I’m in this profession is because it makes my parents proud. We all have the need to get other’s approval but I took it one step further. I even look for a guy who my friends will like too.

– Tall
– Handsome
– Smart
– Funny
– Successful
– Showers me with attention
and the list goes on and on.

It was just the shell, I responded to what they seemingly have to offer. But it has proven to be shallow. It lacks the understanding that I crave from a partner. The non ending conversations that you would rather lose sleep for. The heated topical debates because it is ok to have different opinions. The desire to put their needs before yours. The concern because you care so much it hurts.

So I threw away my checklist and now I’m ready to really get to know the person as they are without all the superficial glam.
To look to the core, where I can find the most precious thing in the world – kindess.

***Photo by journeyexplorer




October 23, 2012 1 comment

Pistachio in Chinese is literally Happy Nut – 开心果.

Recently I met a very cheerful person.

I don’t meet many of those because I tend to enjoy deep, serious and meaningful conversations.


Hence I tend to enjoy friendships with those I can share heart to heart with – not just joke around.

However, this person has the most genuine smile.

With a great sense of humor that is so very attractive.

It feels great after our delightful conversations.

I sometimes even find myself smiling to myself as it seems to have rubbed off on me.

It naturally draws me to him especially when I have just left my dark hole not too long ago.

So I am very much interested and wanted to work towards privatising this pistachio.

Unfortunately, without much success.

Then it hit me – why don’t I just became a pistachio myself?

Then I wouldn’t need to rely on others to be the sunshine of my life.

***Photo by journeyexplorer

Date like a teenager

October 2, 2012 1 comment

I remember “boyfriends” in high school. Back in those days, everything was such a big deal. My best friend would look me straight in the eye and ask me “Have you guys HH yet?” “No, of course not!” I replied.

It means hold hands.

My best friend and I would gossip and laugh about it for hours on end. The one time this guy tried to hold her hand in the movies but got too scared and didn’t do it in the end. Or the time where I had to hide my HH under the school bag, because we didn’t want anyone else to see.

My best friend and Itell each other all the juicy details of our relationships over our overnight letters, which must be given to each other as soon as we meet at school before roll call in the morning. This is so that we would have a chance to reply in the first class and exchange letters again during recess. If she was having issues or bottled up emotions, I would tell her “It’s time to have a D&M with him.”

It means Deep & Meaningful.

How we thought we truly madly deeply loved the boy sitting across the classroom at the age of 15.

Imagine if we dated like a teenager now.

Passing notes on bits of ripped paper with encrypted messages.

Chatting on the phone on any and every topics til the sunrise for weeks on end.

Hand writing 30+ page letters – front and back.

Sitting at McDonalds without ordering to delay going home.

Watching TV together but physically a telephone call apart.

Taking the detour route to get to the bus stop.

Just innocent.

Just simple.

***Photo by journeyexplorer

He’s just totally and absolutely not that into you

September 28, 2012 Leave a comment

Men are from Pornland.

Animals will chase for prey if they are hungry. The urge is as simple and basic as needing the bathroom. Sure, you can encourage it by drinking lots of water or eating poisonous food but in the end when you gotta go you gotta go.

Men will come after you when they have the urge. You can encourage such urge by wearing no bra or very tiny mini skirt. Bottom line is if he is interested he will act upon it, it is not something you can promote.

Conclusion: Women has limited choice from the pool of men who are interested in them in the first place.

***Photo by journeyexplorer

Truth is I don’t want ugly children

August 21, 2012 2 comments

Women are always complaining that men are so utterly lame and shallow, and how their thoughts and actions are controlled by the lower part of their bodies. They try to promote it’s whats inside that counts… blah blah blah.

Sorry, I’m don’t buy it.

Women’s eyes light up when they see a lovely piece of meat. Their heart skips a beat when a gorgeous man brushes past them on the train. They put on their biggest smile when the handsome man in an expensive suit gives them a subtle nod.

Get real. Women are all completely drowning in the fireman and / or Abercrombie and Fitch phenomenon. I get it, it’s hard to force down a meal when your date has volcanic eruptions going on all over his face.

But seriously, besides my strong personal desire of wanting to be aroused with a sexy body I’m honestly just thinking about long term impacts and being very considerate for my next generation. As much as I’m going to be a tiger mum, at least I want to give my kids a chance in this world.

Ugliness is a disability.

***Photo by bgorsphotography

Letter to an admirer

Dear Admirer,
Thank you for seeing me as the apple of your eye and making me feel special. Thank you for telling me how lovely and beautiful I am. But most of all thank you for sticking around all this time.

However, I will always keep you at arm’s length. I can never close the proximity between us. Only this way can I sustain the image of me I want to keep in your heart. I never want to give you the opportunity to discover my weaknesses or ugliness. I want you to keep being swept by my charm, melted by my smile and overwhelmed by my shining personality.


I can never give you a chance.

Your friend always,


***Photo by journeyexplorer

Men Are From Pornland. Women Are From Disneyland.

August 12, 2012 1 comment

Come on, that world-famous book from 1999 is totally and utterly outdated now.

In this day and age…

Men Are From Pornland. Women Are From Disneyland.

That’s why women drag their men to watch chick flicks so they get a glimpse of our world.

That’s why women are reading Fifty Shades of Grey so that they can suck out what’s in men’s head.

No! The other head!

***Photo by journeyexplorer