Posts Tagged ‘cry’

Who will cry at my funeral

March 5, 2011 9 comments

There are what I call “Time and Location” friends, where you happen to become friends at a particular point in time of your life due to time and location conveniences. For example, you befriend Tom because you happen to be studying the same subject this semester. Or your colleague who you hang out with, or friends you make when you have moved to a new place and the likes.

Then there are what I call “Eat and Drink” friends whom you wouldn’t mind to spend your meal time with and hold some kind of interesting conversation whilst you enjoy a meal.

Also in this day and age, there are what you call “Digital” friends. Those people you have on your Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin and what not. You may have 10,000 followers on your Twitter, or 1800 friends on your Facebook, so you know what I’m talking about.

Finally there are what I call Real Friends whom you share the joys and pains of life with, someone you would call or email or message when you need someone to be there for you. I have a very special and unique relationship with a friend where you can read in my Long Distance relationship post. I think the best way to measure your friends circle is not by your Linkedin connection profile but by who will come to your funeral. That is different to weddings, because people always like to share in people’s joys. Trouble is you always have to try to limit your wedding invite list since you or your family is paying for it, or you may only want to invite ‘close friends and family’ since it’s a small wedding.

But those who will come to your funeral is a completely different matter. So have a think about it, when you are spending 15 to 18 hours a day with your online circle. Who can you imagine being there at your funeral? Those are the ones you should be spending quality time with. Most importantly, who will cry at your funeral? Those are the people who care.

***Photography thanks to BGOR’s photography







爸爸, 生日快樂!


January 6, 2011 1 comment
Tears are powerful
Beg for sympathy
Cry of desperation
Speak without words
Touched with joy
Burden of sadness
Utter helplessness


If crying is just an expression of emotional like any other such as smiling for example, then isn’t it acceptable that we cry just as often as we smile? Since life is full of ups and downs, isn’t it ok for us to smile half the time and cry the other half the time?

But ask any psychologist and they will tell you that too much crying can lead to depression which may involve other emotions such as sadness, discouragement, despair, or hopelessness. But what if you laugh too much, is that an issue? Or what if you just felt bored and felt like having a big cry over nothing in particular?

Imagine you are having a conversation with a friend on the train and you burst out in laughter.

Imagine you are having a conversation with a friend on the train and you burst into tears.

Maybe it’s because we don’t want to put others in the difficult situation of not knowing how to respond. So the answer is: best not to do it in public. Although the same also applies to masturbating.