Posts Tagged ‘friendship’

A trip like no other

I receive a message from my life buddy ‘Hey I’m just leaving the house now. So excited!’

‘Me too!! Can’t wait to see you soooooooooon.’ I reply back

When we meet we hug for a whole minute and our laughter echoes so loud in the lobby that everyone is staring but we don’t care. This is no ordinary meeting. Since our last message to each other, we both traveled to our local airport and took an 11 hour flight to a continent different to one that each of us lives in.

For me, travelling is so much more than just sightseeing these days. I have seen my fair share of cathedrals, museums, plazas, beaches and mountains hence I am more fussy with picking my travel partners. I want to enjoy and appreciate the time we have together rather than just ticking off the list of things to do and see. In fact, this time we didn’t even bring a guidebook. We enjoy roaming the streets of downtown and taking long walks to suburbs beyond. I had no expectations of our trip, because the important element was our quality time and life sharing. Indeed it was truly enjoyable with many pleasant surprises and I laughed so much in these few days than I ever did year to date.

***Photo by journeyexplorer

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Eat. Pray. Chat

September 17, 2011 Leave a comment

Food sharing. Pizza. Cup cakes. Dumplings. Cheese. Chips. Burgers. Ice cream.

God sharing. Praising. Praying. Communion. Worship. Healing.

Life sharing. Stories. Events. Milestones.

That’s what we do in our small group. What else can one ask for?


***Photo by bgorsphotography

Long distance relationships

February 26, 2011 7 comments

I’m not a fan of long-term relationships. Usually give it a month or so and it starts to get shaky and awkward. But funnily enough, I have kept this long distance friendship with no sweat for the past 7 years or so and we have crossed multiple time zones and continents, such as:

B in Hong Kong — M in Australia

B in Hong Kong — M in UK

B in Australia — M in Hong Kong

B in Australia — M in UK

Despite all sorts of time differences and having met up for maybe 10 times in the last 7 years, we still manage to communicate every single day. Obviously thanks to the advancement of technology and the digital era, we have managed to exchange over 5000 emails, endless conversations over msn messenger, a million or so likes and comments on Facebook, physical birthday and Christmas cards to maintain our strong 15-year-old friendship. We whinge to each other on bad days, we consult advice on relationship issues, we tell of weird dreams after we wake up, we speak in code that no one else can understand, we know each other’s family, we’ve picked up a call with tears on the other side; and most important we laugh together and carry each other through difficult times. I absolutely can not disclose her identity because she knows ALL, and I mean everything, about me and she would be the first to kill if anyone needed ***TOP SECRET*** information about me.

Last month, as we met up for a drink on the rare and miraculous occasion that we are in the same city and same country, since there had been one time where we were both in Japan but in different cities, I kept trying to prolong our time together. After drinks I suggested we go for supper as well, since it’s so good to have a physical person there to chat with and laugh with. After I got on the taxi on my way home, I had a sense of emptiness and realised ‘Man, I really do miss her a lot!’ I don’t really have anyone one to go shopping with, to pig out on a plate of pancakes after we’ve just had all you can eat dinner, or go to facials and spas with. But somehow our friendship has evolved into how it is today and I wouldn’t trade it for anything else. Until the next time we meet, my dear friend.

***Photography by BGOR’S photography

Sex and best friends

January 14, 2011 Leave a comment

Last night, with a bit of ME time, I watched two episodes of Sex and the City. It reminded me of the days when I was still living in London, me and my flatmates would sit around the 14 inch TV watching Sex and the City on DVD laughing and chatting about the storyline. It was one of my favourite past times. One of my flatmates is a French girl, who loves the show so much she had memorised quotes from the show and treats them as her life coach. I was dumbfounded when she used a line from the show to deal with her recently broken relationship – “It takes half the total time you went out with someone to get over them.”

As much as this show is about sex, I personally think it is actually about friendship. It is only with your closest and most trusted friends can you share your intimate feelings, sex life and the joys and sorrows of life. In their first movie, there was a scene where Mr. Big failed to show up at the wedding and the girls rushed Carrie into the car. But when they saw Mr Big’s car drive past, her friends stood up for her and protected her when she was most vulnerable. That was my favourite scene of the movie because behind that act it represented the histories and foundations of their solid friendship.

Friendships need investing in. Despite our busy schedules, distances, and other fighting priorities we must make the effort to maintain friendships, otherwise it is like sand on the beach that gets washed away by waves.