Who will cry at my funeral

There are what I call “Time and Location” friends, where you happen to become friends at a particular point in time of your life due to time and location conveniences. For example, you befriend Tom because you happen to be studying the same subject this semester. Or your colleague who you hang out with, or friends you make when you have moved to a new place and the likes.

Then there are what I call “Eat and Drink” friends whom you wouldn’t mind to spend your meal time with and hold some kind of interesting conversation whilst you enjoy a meal.

Also in this day and age, there are what you call “Digital” friends. Those people you have on your Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin and what not. You may have 10,000 followers on your Twitter, or 1800 friends on your Facebook, so you know what I’m talking about.

Finally there are what I call Real Friends whom you share the joys and pains of life with, someone you would call or email or message when you need someone to be there for you. I have a very special and unique relationship with a friend where you can read in my Long Distance relationship post. I think the best way to measure your friends circle is not by your Linkedin connection profile but by who will come to your funeral. That is different to weddings, because people always like to share in people’s joys. Trouble is you always have to try to limit your wedding invite list since you or your family is paying for it, or you may only want to invite ‘close friends and family’ since it’s a small wedding.

But those who will come to your funeral is a completely different matter. So have a think about it, when you are spending 15 to 18 hours a day with your online circle. Who can you imagine being there at your funeral? Those are the ones you should be spending quality time with. Most importantly, who will cry at your funeral? Those are the people who care.

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Mark Zuckerberg: just a technology guru?

Mark Zuckerberg is not your typical CEO. After watching an interview of him, I’m utterly surprised at how he made it so far because he doesn’t sound like he has a lot of business sense, nor does he have the presence that makes people listen to him and in fact he doesn’t look like a people person at all. I’m sure he is very good in his area of expertise being computing and a very smart and talented university drop out. But having a high IQ doesn’t equate to knowledge and I don’t think age is the issue here.

So how the hell did he get to be named Person of the Year 2010 by TIME with a net worth of $6.9 billion? If he is just a computer geek, no wonder he came up with the idea of interacting with people virtually instead of face to face. But how did he get his company to grow so much in the past 6 years? We know it wasn’t pure luck, and according to the movie Social Networks, which I don’t even know if it is meant to be based on a true story, he had help from an entrepreneur. But I have doubts on how he can continue his position as CEO with his personality and background as the business continues to grow faster than one can predict. So my suggestion for you is continue being a user all you want but not an investor, just yet. Maybe he will step down as CEO one day and just be CTO instead as that seems like a more suitable fit.